About Alive Alone


Alive Alone is a non-profit organization that publishes a quarterly newsletter as well as offering online support for bereaved parents who have no surviving children. It was founded in 1988 just eight years after Kay and Rodney Bevington’s only child, Rhonda, died just prior to her sixteenth birthday on July 24, 1980.

A Personal Touch

 Kay and Rodney receive at least 30-40 letters each week from parents, support group leaders, and professionals asking about Alive Alone. Each letter is personally answered by Kay or Rodney. Love gifts and memorials support the newsletter and are recognized with a personal letter from the Bevingtons.

What Makes Us Unique

 Alive Alone is unique as all the articles are original and not copied from other material. Bereaved parents, now childless, write the articles or professionals write the articles for this type of grief. Parents with no surviving children can now find friendship, understanding and hope from others like themselves as a result of Rhonda Bevington’s life.

Rhonda’s Story

The inspiration for Alive Alone

Rhonda sitting in the grass

Rhonda had lived a healthy, happy, active life. She was full of enthusiasm, active in many school and church organizations and had many friends. She was at the age when she was beginning to be an adult.

Rhonda was ill with what was thought to be pneumonia, bronchitis, and laryngitis for ten weeks. The specialists decided that there should be a biopsy as the CT scan showed a possible mass behind the breast bone. The intentions was to remove what was there so she would be ready to begin school in a month. Rhonda died unexpectedly after the biopsy of a capillary collapse due to the anesthetic. A malignant tumor was found that was prohibiting oxygen to flow to the left lung properly and she also had lymphoma. This diagnosis had never been discussed as a possibility with her parents.

Kay and Rodney’s lives changed abruptly after Rhonda’s death. It was immediately evident that a support system would be needed to survive the ordeal of now being childless when their entire lives had revolved around Rhonda and her activities.

The Founding of Alive Alone

Excerpt of an interview with Kay & Rodney Bevington

This clip is part of a longer interview located in the “Members Only” section with Kay and Rodney on different aspects of the loss of on only child. Current Members of Alive Alone can request access to the members area by contacting the webmaster via email at webmaster@alivealone.org. For those who are not currently members, please review the membership tiers that offer online access.

Alive Alone – The People that Make it Possible

Our Advisory Board & Volunteers


There is an Alive Alone advisory board. Retired members, Sara Ruble, mother of Scott, Linda Shaw, mother of Steve and Penny Young, mother of Matthew, and Susan Connolly, mother of Ethan, served in these positions for several years.  More recent newly selected members Kathy Grapski, mother of Lauryn, Jim Esworthy, father of Jaclyn & Jennifer, Roger Moroney, father of Kyle, Jean Campbell, mother of Kyle, and Sherri Albern, mother of Kali, and Gwen Rice, mother of Sean assist Kay with various responsibilities.  Jean and Sherri plus her husband, Bob have assumed the responsibility of the care notes. Gwen coordinates the Zoom support groups. Kathy assists Kay with updating the mailing list.

Several Alive Alone bereaved parent volunteers write personal care notes to active Alive Alone members near the birth and death anniversaries of their deceased children. Jean sends Hugs notes to the newly bereaved and Kay contacts each newly bereaved parent with an email, personal letter and packet of information. Jessica Armstrong, retired journalism professor assists Kay with editing the newsletter which is published and postal mailed five times each year.  Penny Young, retired English teacher assists Kay periodically with editing of printed brochures and special materials.  Roger is the current webmaster.

In order to partially offset the cost of providing offline and online services to members, Alive Alone charges a nominal membership cost. Alive Alone does not have paid staff, only volunteers, in order to keep our costs low.

For more information or with questions, email us at alivalon@bright.net.